tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post6335725323250463337..comments2023-10-23T21:29:40.731+08:00Comments on Significantly Lady Luxie: the friendly advantageLady Prismhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04333352060797182573noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-78721875732214423782007-02-09T10:49:00.000+08:002007-02-09T10:49:00.000+08:00Novel and Schaumi:..hmmmm.. wouldn't say it the wa...Novel and Schaumi:..hmmmm.. wouldn't say it the way I said it right here..but more or less..I did give her the talk..like..really sweet..with.."I'm sorry I have to ask for this but..would you have the payment from a couple of months ago ready?..and um'....last month's bill was due..um'...15 days ago...oh'..oh'...okay..no problem.."...<BR/><BR/>she said she would have the money ready by next week...sigh!..I did manage to wiggle my way out of coaching her son..Don't get me wrong...I do like teaching the kid...but...really...we had an agreement...<BR/><BR/>of course she gave me the " how fortunate I am speech.."..ye'...Lady Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04333352060797182573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-84498086245992758752007-02-09T07:09:00.000+08:002007-02-09T07:09:00.000+08:00she's a user. and sometimes we have friends/acqua...she's a user. and sometimes we have friends/acquaintances that are users. <BR/>a big clue..<BR/>whining about having 4 kids and how hard it is and telling you how blessed you are, etc.<BR/>i could almost hear her ... <BR/><BR/>how much you want to be used is up to you...:)<BR/>however, i do believe it's not right to put you in such an awkward position......................https://www.blogger.com/profile/13829766058760599443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-87195968497368030702007-02-09T01:43:00.000+08:002007-02-09T01:43:00.000+08:00It's difficult. Would you feel comfrotable saying ...It's difficult. Would you feel comfrotable saying to your "friend" what you said to us? What does your mind tell you is going on? Listen to it...Novel Nymphhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06277025878584949017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-7665235470779564582007-02-08T15:54:00.000+08:002007-02-08T15:54:00.000+08:00Hannelie:...I wish I heard that discussion....veee...Hannelie:...I wish I heard that discussion....veeery interesting..I think a real friend should be even more sensitive when it comes to money issues...I am...<BR/><BR/>..good manners dictate even so...<BR/><BR/>I give "free lessons" as well...I love teaching kids and would do it for fun..However...when matters are clearly specified that what I am doing is with pay..I get irked when payment due is ignored...sigh!..And the thing is..I just smile and say it's okay....when it's not okay inside of me..which makes me some sort of a phoney..and I hate this phoney feeling...which is not okay..(?)Lady Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04333352060797182573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-56488321907457119992007-02-08T15:42:00.000+08:002007-02-08T15:42:00.000+08:00Hliza: yupitty' will do that!..It's the baing take...Hliza: yupitty' will do that!..It's the baing taken for granted that's hit me here...<BR/><BR/>Darlene: Hello!..welcome to me' bloggy' home..and thank you for the kind wishes!<BR/><BR/>X:DELL: ye'..like I was thinkin'...my time is valuable and I got lots to do ..I need the time..and I want her to pay me...I met her initially because her son was my student..everything was a professional arrangement at first...we became friendly with each other along the way and that's when she started goofing off with the payments...She is far frm being needy or poor...or in want..She lives in a nice house and is able to pay her other obligations...so why not me?Lady Prismhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04333352060797182573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-50062348284470231842007-02-08T14:59:00.000+08:002007-02-08T14:59:00.000+08:00Relationships are tough...I hope for the best beca...Relationships are tough...<BR/>I hope for the best because that is what you deserve.<BR/><BR/>smiles and hugs<BR/>XOXO Darlene <BR/>:)Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06081653211179263967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-50042958001857673192007-02-08T13:24:00.000+08:002007-02-08T13:24:00.000+08:00You're asking me if she's really a friend? Someti...You're asking me if she's really a friend? Sometimes friends are needy. I understand that some people reach a nadir in their lives. When friends abandon them, people label them "false friends." But I think you're coming to the point of understanding why rats flee a sinking ship.<BR/><BR/>At some point, your uncompensated time will be a burdon to you, if you in fact need the money--or the time. Acceptance or rejection of a plea for help is subsequently up to you.X. Dellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17561609651507566271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-47806541844941071412007-02-08T11:51:00.000+08:002007-02-08T11:51:00.000+08:00That's so weird our DJ's just discussed it on the ...That's so weird our DJ's just discussed it on the radio this morning, if it's friends do you pay or not or expect to or not.<BR/>One guy called in and said if they ask you to do something that's your normal job then he think it's fair to also expect payment, if friends don't wanna exchange money then atleast they can buy you a nice bunch of flowers or champain? I hate that feeling too, I helped a 'friends' child out with extra swimming lessons too and never got the so called money she said she'll give, I didn't wanna ask, bad me. <BR/>But ... in the end the friendship ended because I didnt'wanna be taken for granted or advantage of ... some vultures out there you know. I hope it all works out for you though. Good luck.Fleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14277854645434859624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-24968480.post-59869794370219698622007-02-08T11:01:00.000+08:002007-02-08T11:01:00.000+08:00Auww..that's not a nice thing to do to a friend! I...Auww..that's not a nice thing to do to a friend! I think you should just say it out..maybe in a nice way that you really need that payment. Sometimes people forget or take friends for granted. I believe you'll feel better after that..HLizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04501423875033391870noreply@blogger.com