My Attachments

"Play your part in the comedy, but don't identify yourself with your role!" - Why Lazurus Laughed by Wei Wu Wei

I was reading a chapter on "attachments" before sleeping last night. It wasn't really a new book I was perusing and I've read the same words months ago. However, last night every morsel of letter prismed brighter in my mind. Suddenly I knew what it was all about. I became truly educated in the lesson of attachment so to speak.

But I don't want to talk about attachments to you...merely recalling some years ago how I bravely put in place ( nicely though) a difficult relative who wanted me to confront another kin about the "choices" the latter was making in his life.

"It would fall into deaf ears, I exasperatedly said. Nobody wants to be told how to run his own life...certainly not someone over 30! It would be preposterous to assume that my concern or "advice" is welcome...Why it would be tactless and rude of me to even consider that he is unaware of his faults or errors.....and what if what you see as his mindless ways happens to be his preferred way of life...as I apparently see it?....The best we can do is to encourage and be available when he seeks for help or yes..advice..which I very much doubt would ever happen....

Which brings me back to attachments...and having to learn through painful profitable experience how I am one with those around me yet separate in entity..and I am not them...nor do I own them....and that there comes a point of trustingly letting go..and honoring that in as much as I learn from my mistakes...I too should allow others to learn from theirs...

That is the way of living...and a tipping point of love.